The Fear of My Job Is Greater Than The Love For Me

Unconditional Love

I have just realized that the fear of what I do for a living has a great bearing for the amount of love I can receive from my the ladies I befriend.I am ignored and wished away because of the discovery that I swim in the world of books and the saying 

"We always ignore the ones who adore us,and adore the ones who ignore us"

becomes live and very true.

When the fear of who I am is greater than the love you have for me puts me in a precarious position to begin question why I had to know you in the first place.Why must I be a subject of prejudice.Why must my professional position be an issue of concern to the feelings of submission.Why must I be an object of hate simply because of the hatred you have for the profession I  am involved in.We started as friends and it blossomed into love and on realizing that I belong to one of the profession looked down upon in society I am asked for a break....

The Romantic Jealousy

Simple comments or  show a genuine concern and you are ditched and accused of jealousy,It had happened to me twice.First the word was "Really" and this had an irritating effect and was accused of an attempt to monitor or controlling somebody's life....Then a genuine concern just to know if the interaction could be annoying then I was accused of jealousy...the rest is history..

Drinking From The Cup Of Love...

If drinking from the cup of your love will make me be loved for life then I will not hesitate 

Claiming Your Love

"When You See The Clouds Gathering In The Sky,Prepare To Catch the Waters"

How does one begin to? It begins with the sense of belonging and characterized by true feelings ,passions and the desires There are always these passionate feelings emanating from the desires of love.The feeling of true friendship where both tell each other secrets without hiding anything from each other.The feeling of appreciation and thankfulness for the little things in love that really count and build love.The feeling of confidence where you both truly tell and confide in each other their internal make-believes The feeling of care and belongings.The feelings of romancing the whole heart and body in love.
This is the moment that you need to claim your feelings and take your love by signing your name across the heart of your beloved as is the same with the partner.As you endeavours to claim your love always remember

"Do not give away your Heart too easily.Give only the maps to find it then wait to see who follows it.This way you can claim your love"

You are in no doubt that you have fallen in love either by design or by sheer coincidence.Knowing in the The Romantic Submission Moment point of view  is only a facility to claiming what feel should be yours to cherish,to loathe and to cherish.To be loved by and to love the heart that has signals of hope and potentials of wiping The Stains of Rejection and removing the Shadows of Doubt that have always lingered and  haunted you for sometimes could be proving to have contained a lot that you desires and prescribe to in the name of love as you follow what your heart desires.
I would wish to echo that

"Water that has been begged for does not quench the thirst"

If Love is So Sweet, Why Does it Hurt So Much?

Are We genuine in What We Do?

There has always been this question:If Love is So Sweet,Why Does it Hurt So Much? Many attempts to provide an answer to thr question and sample out a few answers to the the question

According to Jackline Kevin 

"Everyone says that LOVE hurts.But that's not true.Loneliness hurts,rejection hurts,losing someone you love hurts.Everyone confuses these with love.But in reality love is the only thing in this world that covers up all the pain and makes us feel wonderful again!" 

 While I share the same sentiment with Jacky I must state that she lists to be hurting are the stains of bitterness that the sweetness of love wipes out.When this is done you feel so sweet ,so rejuvenated  that you feel a sense of re-birth.It has its own tribulation and fantasies. 

The Sweetness Of Love

The sweetness of Love

The Sweetness of Love often surpasses and subdues the Waves of Hatred as you succumb and submits to the feelings of love and follow the desires of your heart.This often is a powerful phenomenon whose resultant effect wipes out the stains of bitterness

When you come face to face with the realities of the situation of love on the ground,often there is less doubt that you will always have the Push and Pull effect of love to open its doors and this culminates to varieties of attitudes ranging from self sacrifice,self denial,risk-taking to letting go,total surrender and the will-crossing to the social front

Walking In The Shadow Of Love

Look at this:You bump into a relationship,you craft and built what you believe should be perfect love , safeguard it by protecting it and giving it your best commitment,you strive to following the desires of your heart.you endeavour to giving it the sacrifice of the time and the donation  of space,giving it your all,only to realize at the breaking moment and the submission moment that you were walking in somebody's shadow of love.It has happened to me several times whenever you land a relationship and you show it the commitment and to realize  that you was watching or participating in a Romantic Movie. When you are about to enjoy bits and bites of love and subscribe to the sweetness of the fountain of love,You realize that it is too good to be real

Sometime a simple and silly human error of not calling as frequently as used to be,or calling very frequently or commenting on what irritates the recipient,sending an a text message which literally apppears ambiguous to the recipient or even trying to find a lot of what the lover believes is a lot of unnecessary detailed information. ......

Sometimes I do not understand the requirements of love.When you appear so much indifferent the needs and material needs of your new-found love,you are dubbed mean.When you support freely and readily,you are quickly taken advantage of and tall orders placed on your path.here if you fail to honour then you become a valueless friend to and dropped like a hot potato.It is claimed you are vulnerable.When you do not come out easily from your cocoon of love then you are told someone is tired of phone love "Nimechoka na mapenzi ya simu"The digital romance is akin to the material gain and the value accrued so much that the patties involved must be ready and be prepared save a fortune in order to satisfy and sustain it as they subscribe to the ideals of this love.I stand to be corrected but th true picture is that one lover usually makes unnecessary demands in the belief that life is so sweet that it must be lived to the fullest advantage and do not even care dying young.They retort:

"I better live comfortably like a King only for ten years on Earth rather than living a hundred years like a slave"

The Pain of Love

When All Your Friends Disappears

Love is a concortion to the disturbed heart and a remorse for those in a romantic quagmire.Admittedly love is so sweet yet love is also more painful and hurting when you have really invested in and done a lot to build the relationship,when you do look straight and stay forecast at what you have got while a little misunderstanding or a silly mistake has the power or eroding and bringing down the Labours of Love.On the Quest Of Love there is the realization that love requires a lot of sacrifice and self-denial sometimes you give it your all-your very best depending on The Choice Of Love.You are building on the understanding that love requires a commitment and a desire to let go other things that could pose a challenge to the status quo.Your attitude to this love is that love requires risk-taking free will attitude and when all these have been done and the emptiness solicited by the love triangle is what one gets,then the tribulation of love and romantic quagmire sets in. You realize its hollowness-Its pain.You feel like you were chasing the wind and the Whispers of Hatred become louder than the Echoes of love Read The Echoes of Hatred and see what I mean

When there has been The Romantic Submission Moment with the crossing of a social front where one considers oneself a winner and a participant in the Game of Romance only to realize the solitude of being dumped and given the polite request of giving a break then the bitterness of what would otherwise be a presumptive naked truth then the better pills of love begin to be digested in the heart.Often one heart bleeds in the pain of loving the unlovable at the moment and duration of place.

In a Love Triangle,the pain of loving somebody who loves somebody else is so great and yet so sharp and double-edged that it cuts and  chops into pieces both the heart and the soul of the affected.The Mind As An Object of Love suffers a great deal This is so great when you realize that there are or come face to face with the skeletons in the closet.One is left with a bleeding heart and a limping physique that one feels cheated and abandoned.You feel cheated and used like an old dry bone which has been licked and licked and shined on and rained on until no dog is interested in.No doubt you feel helpless like a slave being auctioned.You feel like a pauper and a servant in the reigning Royal Kingdom of Love with what you thought was the King or Queen of your heart having signed in somebody else' heart.You resign to the hands of the unknown fate and wait for the dark moment hoping that the ray of beginning afresh will dawn to give you a new lease of life to find a new solace solace.

I had one posted that

There comes a time when one is torn between the desire to achieve love and the disillusionment that there are certain limits to this and the rejection that would later accompany this-Somebody digitally referred to this as sexual harassment.The greatest mess is when one uses unrestrained generosity to break through the barriers in the name of support, and once trust sets in unrealistic demands sets in and when there is a pillar of doubt or failure to meet the demand then you are dropped like a hot potato and deserted for those whose love relationship have accrued benefits.It is always good to wait until things relax.This way you can always provide others with great understanding and patience.Otherwise it is always the innocent who are mistaken.

Perhaps one would ask what could be these feelings of pain.Realistically,the feeling of lose,the feeling of inadequacy,the feeling of uselessness and the feeling of abandonment are the signs and symptoms of the Pain of Love.
Somehow the realities of the choice of Love sets in as your eyes open up after the the episode

The Tribulation of Being A Substitute Lover

The Shrills and thrills of love with the chills and fills of its tribulations sometimes beats the logical reasoning of the analog brain and the digital understanding of the modern youth about the phenomenon of love.I find this thing called Love which is a universally cherished activity,sometimes  so sweet and sometimes hurting so much that it leaves hearts bleeding with regrets and hatred,buoyed by annoyance and embarrassment,punctuated by frustrations and inner conflicts and filled with contempts and lowness among other complementarities.I just wonder why this thing called love should be existing in the first place.
While I take a mirror reflection of Love to be like a game of football which thrills and soothes, I must admit that sometimes it annoys when your favourite player is not clicking or if your expectation of the game in general is not forthcoming or there is a mixed-up in the field.This is followed by shaking and shrieking of the expectations.That is the time you would wish that those substitute players on the bench or touched line are given a chance to play a second fiddle just in case one of the first eleven players gets exhausted or gets injured or is yellow-carded.
Whenever such an opportunity avails itself,the substituted player tries to give his best sometimes exuding unnatural strength and stamina just to show that he or she was the best alternative.He goes to the extent of outwitting and over showing the spectators or convincing the captain and the coach his already doubted prowess and skills.Just like a coach and funs and other spectators get irritated so fast over trivialities and simple silly mistakes,which are sometimes not well understood,this is the fanaticism associated with the game and sometimes the outcomes become disastrous or tragic.The situation is usually made worse when there is a high value attached to the game.
Whenever we engage in a game,there is the simple reason for enjoyment.Other reasons surface from the periphery.As you sample out this wall post by one of my networks reflect on what Deutronomy 29:29 would say:

Life is short and we need to enjoy it to the fullest,this depends on what we do with it and people around us.Find friends who can help you grow and once you realize you have friends who do not add value to your life drop them like a hot potato 

 This was soon followed by two reactionary comments from two facebook friends Out of good gesture and without any malice they commented not knowing what the repercussions would be.The first facebook friend said "Talking" The second one said "Which kind of value.There'r many cn u come clear n specify 4 us.The third friend retorted by flagging but not specifying to which post as "Very Interesting" The next morning the following message was posted and the proud wall owner ducked into silence or can I call holding a secret weapon A hide-and -seek game to drop the bombshell in the name of freedom and responsibility.What followed next is history which led to a bleeding of a wound for saying "Very Interesting" This was quite unfair.

By all rooks and crooks this was the Desire of The Heart of the writer and the perception of the role of friendship in life.One is entitled to a free thought and free interaction as has been put and no one is challenging or questioning this.I am only thinking aloud about why these tribulations of love,more or so when one is to be a substitute in the affairs of the heart.These are just but the tribulation of being a substitute lover.You are easily substituted at the convenience of the other.This is on the strength of the perception of the gains and benefits that would accrue from the relationship.Just like in the game of football,it is all to facilitate a win and when a player loses value.He is dumped or sold off and a substitute is engaged.
Being denied a chance to say or defend oneself or explain ones reactions and behaviour often leads to getting substitute outlet for expression of thought and this perhaps include composing a song,writing a newspaper article,blogging or even writing a poem or a verse on the same.Before you become critical on expression of interest on the tribulations of love,sometimes it calls for an understanding and a second thought and appreciation of the media used for pouring out the tribulations.
Where as this blog is purely for social interaction and passing knowledge for humanity,There is the risk and threat of censure or being flagged as a spam from the digital mind(s) because of the role being played by the blog.If one could be offended by this post,please just ignore and wait to see what would happen next.
A Benjamin Disraeli once retorted that:

"We are all born for love.It is the principle of existence,and its only end"-Benjamin Disraeli

He would have otherwise used his analog line of thinking to come up with this which might not be appreciated by majority visitors or pageviewers but I have to appreciate the strength of his wisdom and say friendship is not about benefits accrued but a give-and-take activity characterised by appreciation coming from its gainful nature.If this is lacking,frustrations and tribulations sets in.It is herein that debate begins.What is your take?

An Object Of Hope

There comes a time when our world seems to turn upside down,our brains seems to refuse to think any more,our friends are no longer there for us at the time of need or close to us any more.That moment when everything seems to loose its meaning is the moment to reckon and see who truely is with you.That moment when your achievement appears to be watered down and are not holding any meaning any more.It is the time when the fear of the inevitable overwhelms and subdues the traces of love and friendship.It is the moment that that seeming so ordinary and near useless friend who drops on your way becomes your greatest asset.

He becomes a beacon of hope and a light of true friendship......This is the situation where love becomes an object of hope

When I refer to a week's thought-Remember to Forget!

"Achievements often come when we

Forget our fears and try;

For that's when we accomplish what

We're most remembered by."

~ Charles Ghigna.

Love As An Instrument of Peace

"The Interaction of message of Love for World Peace"

Throughout my interaction and contribution in Timology as a Social Interaction Site I have always desired,wished and wanted to be,or project an Image of Understanding in the social environment awash by confusions in life;an Object of Love where social Conflict has been made the recipe of existence a  ray of Hope to all the souls and hearts that have drowned in the sea of societal ills and an Epitome of Happiness to those souls I have ever touched.Yes,I have always desired and dreamed to be a harbinger of joy to those that have found happiness in their relationship and a Beacon of Satisfaction to those that have fulfilled their loves
While I might not have been able to get what I desire and hold on so much and cherish in life(Love) and my heart could be bleeding internally and individually the irony is that I derive a lot of joy and pleasure when I realize that people draw a lot from my wealth of contribution-This is all the reason why my heart could be bleeding when peace ls lurking and limping on the road of life and corridors of love
I wish to make a reflection on one of my greatest Scholars on social issues of romance who once quoted:
"Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness"-Oliver Wendell Holmes and I wish to echo this by saying that a social interaction tool which begets happiness and unity with the overall effect of creating and cementing peace
Love is one of the social interaction tools that has the capacity to sensitise,excite,arouse,sooth,romance and touch the heart and impact on the feelings and interaction in the environment either at the individual level,group level or communal level.With the understanding that a human being is a social animal whose comfort and harmony in the environment depends on his understanding of his social environment,ability to change in order to accommodate the other entities in the environment and his ability to co-operate with others.
This is a product of Social interaction as has been observed by a number of Scholars.According to Max Weber,it is indicated that social behaviour has two components.The first is the Action or The Behaviour itself emanating from the individual.The second component is the meaning that the actor attaches to his or her behaviour.That meaning which Weber reffered to as orientation,is how a person perceives his behaviour in relationship to other people.It is that knowledge of another who is affected that makes an action or interaction.
Love used as a tool of social interaction is behaving as a human entity requires harmony and peace at heart as the behaviours for it to attach meaning and social orientation towards a partner and control its activities through Understanding,Change and Co-operation.
From the article When Do We Talk About True Love,if you love truely,then strive to understand that individuals involved in love have personal differences,unique personalities,weaknesses and strengths,different wishes and aspirations.They have unwavering feelings and desires,they burn with passions and desires and different craves with wishes and aspirations.People come from different set cultural backgrounds with their own fears and prejudices which should not stand out as a barrier to submitting for love but rather as a common front or a springboard which swings and propels the partners into the future-as observed by John

"Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other,but in looking outward together in the same direction"

The Principle of Understanding as a rule is usually manifested at the individual level who in turn should appreciate that life is usually sweeter when one is willing to freely give than expecting to receive.Given and received with the right attitude,it leads to a situation where Love breeds true friendship which in turn evolves and revolves around giving anything one can give mainly to enhance the bond of love and true all that is tangible or intangible,These include:ones time;ones love;ones care;ones personal commitment,surrendering ones comfort and much more.Reflect this on the quote

"In love there are two things:bodies and words."-Joyce Carol Oates

All in appreciation that a partner is a special friend in a special environment and that needs special treatment in a world of peace and tranquillity.

The human behaviour emanates from the group dynamics explained by a number of theories explaining interaction The other theory explaining the social interaction is based on the group dynamics which according to Kurt Lewin, who developed the concept of group dynamics.Agitated by his concern with the interaction not just between individuals but between individuals and the groups that they belong According to this theory it is indicated that

Human behaviour results from the interaction between a person and his or her social environment. Since our behaviour is pinned on action and the meaning attached on that action so our behaviour of love is based on a common understanding of our status quo, our unique individuality. And our orientation towards one another as individuals and towards group dynamics,and the meaning attached to the environment.

We must be willing or wanting to shed off and desire to change and let go ....sacrifice to let go some of the things very dear to us in order to accommodate the wishes and aspirations of our love partners If you

Co-operation here in is the result of submission effect Peace quiet, calm freedom from or cessation of war, civil order, peace maker is a person who brings about peace or social order Love as a tool of social interaction leads to networking.The idea of networks in social interaction was developed in the 20th century from the desire to study whole groups of people rather than just individual interactions. Scholars who study networks try to map out connections between members of a group (quite applicable in studying the behaviour of lovers).Connections can consist of conversation, written communication and any other type of information exchange between people. Networks are generally fluid, meaning they change and evolve over time. Above all, remember that age, colour, language or religion does not matter but love matters alot in.
Lovers need a home to make love and celebrate their friendship orientations.They cherish this together and constantly look forward to this.This is because sweet home is a retreat where one can mellow out with dear hearts and gentle people,pleasantly removed from the dilemmas of the Universe.Love provides a road map to happiness.Happiness is learning to want and appreciate what you you have and wishing that your dream come true.
Every dream has a road and a roadmap and every road has a beginning starting on a step of time and a moment of submission.Lovers commit to the path of intimacy and follow a roadmap to their hearts explored through knowledge and discernment.They understand and appreciate that knowing alone is not enough but is complimented by application.They apply their feelings,They cherish their desires and subscribe to their aspirations and must apply willingly.Willing is the taking risk for the sake of happiness which is the bedrock of peace.This follows the understanding that The greatest risk in life is when you never take risk
According to William Shakespeare

 "Now join your hands,and with your hands join your hearts"

Lovers do join their hands,jpin their minds,join their bodies and reconcile their initial seperate environment brought together for the sake of peaceful co-existence.While it is true

 "Love does not make the world go round,love is what makes the ride worthwhile" As asserted by Elizabeth Browning

As we crave for the sojourn of Love in our hearts,it is imperative to understand that  

"Love is a promise.Love is a souvenir,once given never forgotten,never let it disappear"

This is done while reflecting on Brian Andres thus:

"We sat side by side in the morning light and looked out at the future together" - Brian Andres

The Desires of Love

"A Pink Rose For Love"

Once upon a time you had had the feelings and desires to love and to be loved and you felt that strong urge and the heartbeat of love throbbing and pounding so hard very near yet so far away upon your heart and inside your ribcage.If you were not aware of it then that was the desire of love at its best 

 The Desires of Love

"Love is  much of an object as an obsession,everybody wants it,everybody seeks it,but few achieve it,those who do will cherish it,be lost in it,and among all,never...forget it.Could this be the love you will or is likely to receive or give out to the one who will touch your heart?"

Love is a desire of the heart and a phenomenon very unique and special that everybody yearns for it.Love is a look that link the noble minds.Desire of Love is the inspirational key that opens the spring of love.According to one of my facebook network a Betty Okumu posted on her wall that

 "Hearts are very many all over the world....chosing one is very difficult...but the worst nightmare is your heart accepting your chosen heart so that they function as one and NOT causing a heart failure"

 The desire of Love is a prologue to happiness as a one Jane Mwaluma posted in her facebook wall thus:

"Happiness is not something ready-made! It comes from your own actions" and cushioned and propelled by the feelings and desires of love

And this is to say that the desire to love and the function of deriving happiness from such love is both a feeling and a desire that follows a crave to belong and have a sense of belonging and a unique phenomenon that does not give time for waiting nor patience for decision-making as is often taken by many souls and suitors.
More often than not we do welcome for those who do anticipate and even contemplate the possibility of a relationship and look for cues and clues to its manifestation as we evaluate our desires and feelings and aspiration we believe are or should be associated by such a relationship we get magnetized spiritually in the soul through our feelings of identification and a belonging but not a decision to be made.
It is the kind of thing that begins with the desires and feelings of appreciation and thankfulness and a desire to claim the joy of caring and being cared for being appreciated,being recognized,being befriended and being identified and even before you know it, you get elated and swept off the ground heads over heels with your world turned round and round and upside down by the thrill of love.
Love is not about physical being or physical nature but more of a spirituality and has to do with the soul and therefore internal rather than an external and physical that requires immense knowledge and infatuation from each partner.The seedling of love is usually planted in the prospective lover's heart and not through physical touch and this means it is possible to be in love by a prick of ones immense morals,the wealth of characters,the great potential and the astitute aspirations in life.
This is usually so because the moment that one is only and stupidly and only in love with the physical nature then automatically as is always the case one will be in for a rude shock of the expectations the moment the inner being comes out to manifest to the surface.Often there are those titbits, the whispers, the messages, the flowers and the cards and even words of wisdom and sometimes words of love.The desires of love usually leads you in a step by step fashion to this special somebody-The one who when you are seemingly lonely and when the world appears to have stopped going round as it seems to be closed with no one to turn to console you his object of being comes handy,then his image alone will be an epitome of romance in your heart.This brings me to the question, 

" Is it possible to love somebody you haven't seen or met?"

To this question the answer is Yes and absolutely since one who loves,loves who you are and not what you think I have or you have not seen.You love ones character and spirituality do not have any apologies to make.This is your unique special friend and confidant and yet a  best friend to share with your tribulations as you receive back the appreciation,satisfactorily celebrate your successes and cherish your failures by listening to the soothing words which stands out uniquely as the symbol of comfort and signifies a symbol of association
This is the desire that when you are in a social quagmire a romantic whirlwind with a myriad of questions lingering in your brain and answers seems not to be forthcoming then the pieces of advice coming from this special person usually signifies the wisdom and purpose of existence and seems to provide an alternative pathway to a race of life sometimes you are so much intimately attracted to and romantically attached to the closeness of your togetherness that you desire the presence and union of both of you that is in itself is a sanctuary of love and you get the satisfaction that love is in the offing.
You desire to harvest from the maturity whose wealth of experience is a double combination of the wealth of years and first-hand information to the destiny of existence                                                                          

The Unconditional Love

Take anything desired from The Cup of Love-It is free Choice 

A lot of discussion has taken place with a lot of water having gone under the bridge on the word Love in terms of What is Love,When Do We talk about True Love and many more articles on love and more recently on the Choice of Love.Whatever is your take on this I wish to indicate that Real Love sometimes may mean nothing to the whole world but when you get it your whole world will mean Love.This is the departure where Unconditional Love sets in.
The Love Guru has a very special way of giving the quotes of Love,where as others use lyrics to express the feeling of Love.Here in my very special commitment I use words to describe the same feelings in a way I believe will touch the hearts of many for those who will dare to be patient enough and read them.My personal Concept of Love is that

"Love is a deep conviction and a personal commitment to social feelings and desires,passions and aspirations of the heart and a pursuit to care and having a sense of belonging in order to secure appreciation and comfort"

From the article The Quest for Love,

Love is a feeling of warmth, kindness, fondness and affections towards tender devotions of the opposite sex or the other partner as would be seen in three very unique and distinctive perspectives: The Filial Perspective (Family),The Social Perspective (Social Love),and The  Romantic Perspective (Intimate Love) 

The three perspective are understood to be quite interactive to each other and sometimes,not as a rule, changes form from one perspective to another perspective.The salient question here therefore is, when does Intimate Love change to a Filial Love?This happens when couples that have romantically submitted and consumed their love unconditionally benefits from the product of their union (conception) and are blessed with the fruits of love (Child or Children) This is point where Filial Love takes over and romantic love ceases or ducks to the background where it lies dormant to be rekindled when it is true love.http://timologyvok.blogspot.com/2012/04/when-it-is-true-love.html 

Love  is a feeling or a delight or a desire that a person has. Love is more intimate and touches the heart and involves enjoyment by both parties involved. Love is that activity given for the pleasure of giving and not receiving back and not for its stake. Love is laboured for and labourer enjoys doing what she or he is doing for the sake of the loved one and remains hard-put even to the outside pressures, challenges or influence hence the saying, love is blind or love knows no cultural barrier. Love means doing things for the sake of your sweetheart all in the name of love. So love is an affiliated feeling that surpasses intuition and reasoning and is a mental process.

Donna Summer a once soul singer-turn-gospel composed a song on "Unconditional Love"I just wish you could get the lyrics to the song to supplement this idea..."Give me Your Unconditional Love...

"Love is an aspiration and inspiration from a loving Heart"

I wish to invoke the feeling here that for the Prince of love (one who exercises love and provides the love) to reign in ones heart then we need to provide undivided attention and loyalty and even take the pains of sacrifice the comfort of the partner if that would be desired,done in good faith devoid of conditions and procedures.I wish to quote from the love guru who once said that

 "Your prince of love will one day come.He may not ride a white horse or live in a big castle but he will love you and only you and you can still look forward to a moment of fun"

From the above argument I therefore advance the argument of Unconditional Love that this can only be true following the deep conviction and personal commitments to the desires of the heart with everything else taking the back-stage.This is because of the perception that "Love is an aspiration and inspiration from a loving Heart".The result will be to take one the way he/she is without giving up on the one you can not go a day without thinking about.
Perhaps it is at this point in time that one would say that Love is blind as it would only cherish what it deems desirable after going through The Romantic Submission Moment  three stage Cycle of Falling in Love.A good friend once challenged me to a question

"Wow!Let me ask you a personal question,you know so much about love why aren't you in love?" My response was "I am writing a complete article on my belief on unconditional love and why I have not come-by it" after promising to answer her later by directing her to the notion of Unconditional Love she posed the question "How do you identify unconditional love" Here my answer was that it lies in the Choice of Love,its expectations that go with it and the demands attached

So you identify Unconditional Love when you see sacrifice and deep personal commitment irrespective of the status quo,when you see deep devotion tenderness and undivided attention.When there is constant concern and unwavering care.you take a cue of the....
Unconditional Love is the kind of love that will not desire to change or reshape the character of the partner but will appreciate the intimate uniqueness and physical difference seen and found on the other partner as you cross the Social Front to submit to the whims of love.This love will always appreciate the physical strength and weaknesses,appreciate the desires and feelings of one another.It will cherish the inadequacies and celebrate the successes gathered together while rewarding the efforts of appreciation towards one another.
Many times people have always invested in what they believed could be love made in heaven only to find themselves in the limbo of condemnation.This is because of the jargon-"What you see is not what you expected".There is usually very high expectation from the one you love or even to the extent of assigning rules and procedures with well defined character and moral expectations.There is usually the tendency to re-shape your conception of the would be partner or the new found partner to the illusion of  I-wish-I-knew kind of attitude because of the conditions attached to the love. 

From the previous article on The Choice of Love. This should be based on the fact that people are unique in their choices

"Do not try to make me be perfect but appreciate me the way I am"

I wish to indicate man's love cannot be satisfied by beauty alone,or by material things and pushy-flashy aspirations in life but through appreciating that one is beautiful or handsome because of the feelings you have attached to that which you see and get from their relationship.
After a lot of soul searching and deep meditation indicate and reveal that Love is like a home which to a lover and a loved one is a place for a retreat where one can mellow out with dear hearts and the gentle partner,pleasantly removed from the dilemma of the Universe."Oh!Love Sweet Love! How I cherish what will be our Sojourn together"
If I may share with you an experience.I had a friend who really believed in investing in love to sustain what he believed was good for his passion.So much so that he could go to the extent of sending free gift to  that his supposed lover would take advantage of,revel and swim in the spirit of offer and take to the fill and disappear.He had been a victim of con women,in fact four times in a row.

The Attitude of Love

It is a fact of life that whenever we want to do something,it is always important to set our eyes on it and develop the right attitude towards it.For success it is necessary to be focussed and have positive attitude Humility is always the greatest attitude of Love

When Do we talk about ‘True Love’

"A Moment of Love"

Having gone a lot of soul-searching and meditation culminating into The Romantic Submission Moment,you face and break into the Romantic Bliss and shortly present your heart,your feelings,your desires and aspirations and whole-being to the whims of your new found love.You totally surrender to the burning desires of loving and being loved.

Depending on the intimacy of both of you and the romantic skills that accompanies it,you become free and willing to give and let go the feelings for consummation.At this time and moment of great seduction you realize that the Whispers of Love will be louder than the Echoes of Hatred.Only then can you identify infatuation and differentiate it from sexual desires and chauvinism,and say the least being a sex object.You begin to wonder whether it was "True Love" or not 

"What message  could this flowers be sending?"

If you have gone through a number of romantic posts in this site,then  it is assumed that you have enough prerequisite information to make analysis of what True Love is assumed to be is or could be.From the Social Interaction point of view the query When Do We Talk about True Love? has been an age old question that has baffled many,young and old the colour and non coloured,men and women,the high and mighty the world over and continues.
I wish to echo what Honore de Balzac once quoted that 

"True Love is eternal,infinite,and always like itself.It is equal and pure,without violent demonstrations:it is seen with white hairs and is always young in the heart."

My conjecture on this is that 

True Love is spiritual and is indeed eternal for it never dies but may only be interrupted by the demise of the other partner and will always reincarnate in the heart of the surviving partner.This phenomenon once initiated in the hearts of the partners does not have a traceable feelings or or a foreseeable or predictable passion.The characteristics of love is only comparable to True Love.True love sees the other partner as the better half and shares in the wishes and aspirations of the future,submits to the desires and passions of the heart and therefore is equal to the measure of anticipated love.True Love does not poke into the life of the partner,it does not find fault and does not aim to change but appreciates the other partner is she/he is and therefore remain pure and true to its meaning.True Love is a champion of romance and is always guided by a set of logics, wisdom and the Voice of Reason.True Love is composed and never panic, is comfortable and not disturbed by the noisy confusions in life and is not worried about its position in the Universe but  is guided by words of wisdom and therefore is without violent demonstration.Due to this you can only see and appreciate this and see it with white hairs and and feel the youngness in the heart 

While I understand the biological differences that necessitate  that each individual is entitled to his or her own mode of thinking,understanding and perception depending on their level of social maturity and perception of their unique social class of stratification,I may say and need to point out here that 

"True love" is an undertaking that is dimensional and wears many Faces of  Love which defies all the odds and even.It is a love with deep foundation on The Pillars of Love"

We talk about TRUE LOVE when there is a deep conviction of the wishes and aspirations with a deep personal commitment to feelings and desires of the heart there is a total surrender and submission of true feelings and desires culminating to change of attitude and behaviour orientation towards the loving partner .Read the article The Unconditional Love 

True Love is a love that is sensitive and is a compliment to the many short text and lovely messages sent at an interlude of time and out of expectation and wise sayings directed towards the partner and the loving words whispered literally and meaningfully through the soft Whispers of Love which are usually louder than resonating Echoes of Hatred and resentment emanating from the losing competitor (s) while it is aware of the Echoes of Hatred that could be associated or accompanied by parallel competitorsTrue Love is therefore a romantic feeling and desire of belonging and a romantic phenomenon deeply rooted in and is  based on the fountain and foundation for A Great Relationship and presumably eternal future undertakings.It is a love that is conscious of the competing hearts and the pressures of the Romantic Quagmires through the Love Triangle and appreciates the many Faces of LoveFrom the social interaction point of view True Love is a love based on The Romantic Submission Moment and reflected from The Social SubmissionMoment

The Choices Of Life

Those long old days we were still young and untapped,we had dreams,had our wishes and desires,we had aspirations,and we were full of imaginations as to the kind of things we wanted to do with ourselves.The kind of jobs we wanted to profess and the kind of lifestyle we thought was desirable to us.

Sometimes it is necessary and it is the right thing to do to make life's choices.This we have to get right are we are messed up for good.Choices are made with jobs,places to reside,partners to live with and the kind of lifestyle to lead.

The Concept of Love

"Taking Love from the Cup of Love"

Would you like to join the great debate on what love is? Of course I suspect.Perhaps this is the golden chance and opportune moment of joining the like-minded 3-D thinkers in re-shaping some of the age-old fallacies, conepts and notions often so much misused that their speculative use has been quite commonly  taken as the gospel meaning of the concept even if they are wrong.One of this is the The Concept of Love Whereas this could have been partially or wholly true,I feel for the sake of this understanding,the explanation of the word love should begin with the highlighting of the concept of love.This is done here by first giving the literary exposition of the words “Concept” and “Love”
The Concept of Love
I begin my exposition of the Concept of Love by providing the definition of the word  "Concept" as used in this article

From the theory of study of words the word concept usually refers to a general notion about something: or an abstract idea about something made reference of. As an abstraction of a phenomenon. Event or object.We paint a general idea about what is made reference of.Conception is usually a noun referring to either conceiving of or being a conceived idea or understanding of something.Conceptual is a descriptive word referring to the mental concept of something .in itself more of abstraction of what is made reference of.Conceptually is an adverb referring to a conceptual way of perception of a thing, an event or an object or subject.With all the naivety and intellectualism associated with the passions and desires of the heart,the word that has always been very difficult to define or explain or precisely say what it is has been the word Love.Through speculation and social ventures many had always taken this literally to mean sexual tendencies exhibited and shown by one partner towards the other with an intention of sexual consumption.

Having looked at the meaning of the word "concept" may I now shift the attention to the word love:

From a layman’s point of view the word Love refers to some and of course deep affection or fondness exercised by one partner towards the other with similar desires and feelings,intimately these are sexual passions that emanate from the desires and wishes of the prospective lover. 

To the beginners in the game of love,where their understanding of love is equated with infatuation and sexual urge, and they take love to mean sexual relations between two members of the opposite sex romantically attracted to each other and shares in the give and take phenomenon and exchange of love sentiments.

From the social interaction point of view the word love is taken to mean the effect resulting from the romantic submission moment which result after a social front has been crossed leading to the breakdown moment.Here,the two love birds having flown high and nigh towards the direction of each other and having crossed the social front have perched onto the heart of the partners.

Consequently to fall in love here means to begin to love which thinly means to begin to recognize the feelings and desires, appreciate the efforts taken to show or have the feelings shown and to initiate the exercise of love. Simply put the love affair begins.Take note that love affair here refers to a romantic or sexual relationship between two people, between love-birds that has been planted,nurtured and tendered like a love-in-a-mist (blue-flowered cultivated plant) the result of which if not tendered creates the feeling of being lovesick,which means languishing with love.

From a literary discourse it is understood that the word love is associated with such words like beloved one,sweetheart and is colloquially used as a form of address regardless of affection of the person of whom one is fond of.Are words usually used as forms of  affectionate greetings,particularly intended to make the lover feel love for,or have delight in, sometimes used to admire or have admiration for, to like very much.

I am not here,trying to make a retinue of romantic words but just to have a slight exposition of important words used in Love and romance.The other words are lovelorn pining from unrequited love. To make love has always been taken to mean to have a sexual intercourse (with) pay amorous attention Loveable means can be loved.Loveless means unloving or unloved or both ‘lovely colloquial pleasing, delightful,beautiful.

A Lover is a person in love with another or is having mutual sexual relations with another; unmarried couple in love or having sexual relations, person who enjoys specified thing Loving feeling or showing love,affectionate Loving cup is a two-handled drinking cup passed round at banquets.

Having looked at the words concept and love separately, we need now to combine the two and get a holistic definition of the Concept of Love.
From the Social Interaction point of view,The Concept of Love  means the general notion of Love as perceived in the mind of the lover and the beloved.Love in itself is the exercising of passions while allowing desires to follow the wishes and aspirations of the heart...

The Choice Of Love

"Could have been the best Choice You ever made"

The Choice of Love

Life is usually claimed to be a biological episode and a function which on its very unique way is an accident of purpose while death is said to be a must and  clearance phenomenon which awaits every other soul on planet Earth who partakes in the sojourn of existence-yet existence is a necessary sojourn of destiny on the planet Earth. One of the social etiquettes necessary for  life undertakings is being able to make a Choice and being able to make choices and selections from different options as no agreement was ever made and  signed for before your maker or  anything anywhere could be before we were given a lease of birth-as to who to be our parents, when to be born,where to be born or how to be born or to live on this platform of human activities.

I remember this story very well and with a lot of nostalgia from my first love (R.I.P.) in high school when I was challenged by her  great mind and soul of a love that I believed would have been the epitome of my love and happiness in life, narrating and teaching me to listen and be a good listener to any story and yearn for the message conveyed in it. Here goes her story adapted from the Love Guru’s voice of wisdom                                                                                          

“In a Love Contest in a Beach Love Camp organised solely for The Sojourn of Love  couples and those loving hearts were chosen at random,selected and included  to participate in a love quiz purposely meant to test their commitments to their partners in their love lives. A series of activities were undertaken both physical and oral. Among the oral activities undertaken included being given choices of love to make as a show of commitment to their relationship.Three love choices were given. These included choosing from the Love of Gold, Love of Flowers and Mothers Love. After choices were made and decided on, they were put to task to clearly explain their reasons and intentions of their choices. This they did so clearly to the attention and amusements of other couples who admitted that lovers go into a relationship without first weighing and weighing of other available options and only guided by sexual passions and infatuations mistaken to be love instead of true love and that is why there several definitions of True Love both shallow and deeply rooted on some kind of understanding”

Many of us including you and me and significant others do speculate instead of getting our basis of the argument and tendency to manual thinking in the issues of love.Put in another way savage way of thinking and doing what is mistaken to be love.

Of  particular interest and relevance to this article is the explanation and teaching that was advanced by the Love Guru whose  voice of wisdom was echoed in the following explanation:
The Love of Gold

"When money can furnish a room but can't buy peace"

This is symbolically an affair which is a mirror reflection to the love of glittering material things.The pussy in-things confused to be necessary in the blossoming of love. This is a love founded on the principle that

“life is so short that one has to live honourably like a king on this world even if for a day rather than living a hundred years on Earth like a slave. The belief that life must be enjoyed no matter how carelessly it is consumed.”

It is a love anchored on expensive resources and gifts. The love of money and cars. Love of maisonettes and bungalows. The wheel of love is usually pushed round wheeled with the oil of material things and benefits that many believe must be provided as a prerequisite to sustaining the relationship. Quite often money takes the centre stage and is usually the cause of separation or calling it quits among lovers whenever love goes sour.

This is a love with no security The partners are quite insecure with and to each other-hence the Cheating Syndrome. Gold is loved by everybody and is wanted by everybody. One moment you could be having it the next moment you are robbed of it. It is a love associated with so many worries and uncertainties. There is no comfort in this love. Love with no future. Love threatened with desertation.Love with no assurance.Love based on the Slogan “Give me so that I give
The Love of Flowers

"What could be hidden deep inside the Hydagrass Flower?"

Is a love affair which is short lived and temporary. As it shoots out of its bud its is accompanied with fragrance and beauty which only lasts a day or two before it withers away completely.Just like a flower, it blossoms and withers away as soon as it loses its fragrance and value. As the saying goes that not all that glitters is gold, so you have to remember that not all flowers symbolises love but only Red roses do. Please do realize also that for very Rose flower you pick you will be pricked by its thorns, and the number of picks made do translate to the number of pricks and wounds inflicted on your skin. So as you keep on changing these flowers to maintain their beatification effect so you are maintaining the fresh wounds inflicted by its thorns. This is a love life characterised by the vain glories of life.

"This is a love life founded on the fact that I should live today for I do not know what tomorrow holds and that I should live today for tomorrow will always take care of itself-Never Postpone your future since the future is right here with you"

The Mothers Love

"Imagine the Happiness they derive from this for each other!"

This is an affair which represents True Love that only you is interested in. The love that cares not about my physique or physical appearance. Minds not about but will always cherish my failures and celebrate my successes. A love that will use my weaknesses as a starting point to console my soul and give me hope in life. Remember, you did not decide on that person to be your mother but came to the realization of’ your strong attachment and a sense of belonging

“That my mother is my mother alone and I can never lose my mother or exchange my mother for another mother. Even if I go abroad I will always come back and be welcomed back to her arms. She has and gives the greatest love comparable to none at all”

When society looks down upon me or condemns me to death, it is my mother who will always come back to pay homage to my carcase or grave when she remembers the birth pangs she underwent when I was being born.

So what is the message we are learning from this short story and its explanation? The right choice of love should be based on different faces presented by love.Remember to use your Mind As an Object of Love to guide you make a better choice of your love.
Let the love of money not rob you of your mother’s love as you watch out of those glittering things that are short-lived.Those who have ever foung happiness in their love lives believably have always been very plain and simple in their love.While it is true that money can not buy love,it can only be used as a vehicle to carry and ferry love to risky and interesting heights. Money is only a way to labour of love but not a guarantee to its satisfaction or maintainace Just a minute this article is still being built! Have a rewarding Labour Day!