The Choice Of Love

"Could have been the best Choice You ever made"

The Choice of Love

Life is usually claimed to be a biological episode and a function which on its very unique way is an accident of purpose while death is said to be a must and  clearance phenomenon which awaits every other soul on planet Earth who partakes in the sojourn of existence-yet existence is a necessary sojourn of destiny on the planet Earth. One of the social etiquettes necessary for  life undertakings is being able to make a Choice and being able to make choices and selections from different options as no agreement was ever made and  signed for before your maker or  anything anywhere could be before we were given a lease of birth-as to who to be our parents, when to be born,where to be born or how to be born or to live on this platform of human activities.

I remember this story very well and with a lot of nostalgia from my first love (R.I.P.) in high school when I was challenged by her  great mind and soul of a love that I believed would have been the epitome of my love and happiness in life, narrating and teaching me to listen and be a good listener to any story and yearn for the message conveyed in it. Here goes her story adapted from the Love Guru’s voice of wisdom                                                                                          

“In a Love Contest in a Beach Love Camp organised solely for The Sojourn of Love  couples and those loving hearts were chosen at random,selected and included  to participate in a love quiz purposely meant to test their commitments to their partners in their love lives. A series of activities were undertaken both physical and oral. Among the oral activities undertaken included being given choices of love to make as a show of commitment to their relationship.Three love choices were given. These included choosing from the Love of Gold, Love of Flowers and Mothers Love. After choices were made and decided on, they were put to task to clearly explain their reasons and intentions of their choices. This they did so clearly to the attention and amusements of other couples who admitted that lovers go into a relationship without first weighing and weighing of other available options and only guided by sexual passions and infatuations mistaken to be love instead of true love and that is why there several definitions of True Love both shallow and deeply rooted on some kind of understanding”

Many of us including you and me and significant others do speculate instead of getting our basis of the argument and tendency to manual thinking in the issues of love.Put in another way savage way of thinking and doing what is mistaken to be love.

Of  particular interest and relevance to this article is the explanation and teaching that was advanced by the Love Guru whose  voice of wisdom was echoed in the following explanation:
The Love of Gold

"When money can furnish a room but can't buy peace"

This is symbolically an affair which is a mirror reflection to the love of glittering material things.The pussy in-things confused to be necessary in the blossoming of love. This is a love founded on the principle that

“life is so short that one has to live honourably like a king on this world even if for a day rather than living a hundred years on Earth like a slave. The belief that life must be enjoyed no matter how carelessly it is consumed.”

It is a love anchored on expensive resources and gifts. The love of money and cars. Love of maisonettes and bungalows. The wheel of love is usually pushed round wheeled with the oil of material things and benefits that many believe must be provided as a prerequisite to sustaining the relationship. Quite often money takes the centre stage and is usually the cause of separation or calling it quits among lovers whenever love goes sour.

This is a love with no security The partners are quite insecure with and to each other-hence the Cheating Syndrome. Gold is loved by everybody and is wanted by everybody. One moment you could be having it the next moment you are robbed of it. It is a love associated with so many worries and uncertainties. There is no comfort in this love. Love with no future. Love threatened with desertation.Love with no assurance.Love based on the Slogan “Give me so that I give
The Love of Flowers

"What could be hidden deep inside the Hydagrass Flower?"

Is a love affair which is short lived and temporary. As it shoots out of its bud its is accompanied with fragrance and beauty which only lasts a day or two before it withers away completely.Just like a flower, it blossoms and withers away as soon as it loses its fragrance and value. As the saying goes that not all that glitters is gold, so you have to remember that not all flowers symbolises love but only Red roses do. Please do realize also that for very Rose flower you pick you will be pricked by its thorns, and the number of picks made do translate to the number of pricks and wounds inflicted on your skin. So as you keep on changing these flowers to maintain their beatification effect so you are maintaining the fresh wounds inflicted by its thorns. This is a love life characterised by the vain glories of life.

"This is a love life founded on the fact that I should live today for I do not know what tomorrow holds and that I should live today for tomorrow will always take care of itself-Never Postpone your future since the future is right here with you"

The Mothers Love

"Imagine the Happiness they derive from this for each other!"

This is an affair which represents True Love that only you is interested in. The love that cares not about my physique or physical appearance. Minds not about but will always cherish my failures and celebrate my successes. A love that will use my weaknesses as a starting point to console my soul and give me hope in life. Remember, you did not decide on that person to be your mother but came to the realization of’ your strong attachment and a sense of belonging

“That my mother is my mother alone and I can never lose my mother or exchange my mother for another mother. Even if I go abroad I will always come back and be welcomed back to her arms. She has and gives the greatest love comparable to none at all”

When society looks down upon me or condemns me to death, it is my mother who will always come back to pay homage to my carcase or grave when she remembers the birth pangs she underwent when I was being born.

So what is the message we are learning from this short story and its explanation? The right choice of love should be based on different faces presented by love.Remember to use your Mind As an Object of Love to guide you make a better choice of your love.
Let the love of money not rob you of your mother’s love as you watch out of those glittering things that are short-lived.Those who have ever foung happiness in their love lives believably have always been very plain and simple in their love.While it is true that money can not buy love,it can only be used as a vehicle to carry and ferry love to risky and interesting heights. Money is only a way to labour of love but not a guarantee to its satisfaction or maintainace Just a minute this article is still being built! Have a rewarding Labour Day!