The Cycle of Love

The Cycle of Love 
Just like other feelings and intuition that are characteristics of the human feelings.love is a cyclical elements with its ebbs and peaks worst if it makes a downward trends particularly when it  feels threatened and quite warm and appetizing when cherished and appreciated
The ebbs of feelings,desires,needs,passions usually builds,reaches a crescendo is peaked at consumation whenever submission is attained then falls to a minimum then levels off.this forms a cycle of experience and expression of love which goes round and round and never ceases to flow.
The expression of feelings, passions and desires of intimacy is usually a forward flow only suffering a temporary set back whenever love suffers distance and becomes stable and onwards when there is zero tolerance to space and physical distance but when nourished and possessed it creates harmony of purpose and romance,and it therefore becomes a continuous flow that does not come to an end-everlasting love/everlasting harmony

Timology as a Labour of Love

Timology as a Labour of Love.
Introduction
 I start this discussion by posing the question, what is love?  The discussion starts with attempted definition of love, highlighting the characteristics of love and the importance of the love element in human endeavour and finally looks at the perspectives of love.                             
In an attempt to define  love the Oxford Advanced Learners dictionary defines love as a warm, kind feeling; fondness or affectionate and tender devotion. In a very light touch without direct indications these feelings would be in form of   children (Filial),Love of adventure or passion or love of one’s country-patriotism or fanaticism (Social) and sexual desires between two affectionately intimate people of the opposite sex (Romance)                                                             
The notable characteristics of love is that Love must be fallen into( come to feel love:-Kissing,Caressing,Fondling,hugging,Smooching,Chatting,loveplay,writing loving messages and loveletters,lovematching,telling love stories, singing love songs and lovesickness, there must be feelings for and towards the loved one),Love has its Romantic activities                               
While a lot of meaning and emphasis has been and is still being given to the importance of the element of love,  it should be understood that the element of love has been an age-old prescription to loneliness among different cultures in different geographical that has persisted over time is still being experienced and will still.
There are characteristically more Perspectives of love depending on the functional activities that prevail in the destiny of existence and the thoroughfare of life but for the sake of this discussion there are three perspectives. These are: the Filial Perspectives or family love; the Social Perspective otherwise known as Social Love and the Romantic Perspective or intimate.
The Filial Perspective is a special bond and attachment emanating from the family membership-a sense and attraction of belonging to a common unit. This is the family love and craving for family positional.
The Social Perspective is the Social love and refers to a superficial relationship that exists between prominent personalities in social classes and their ardent followers. It is characteristic of fanaticism and is often a reminiscent of The Social Submission Moment                      
The Romantic Perspective is the dimension that focuses on the love and intimate relationship between two parties that were otherwise strangers to each other and distance apart at heart that have been drawn together and are therefore intimate to each other  I therefore take the perspective of Romantic Love or the Intimate Love.Love, in its general aspect whichever the perspective, is usually a component of both the heart and the soul representing physical and spiritual aspects of Romance.As units representative of a BEING, the heart and , or soul, is usually an entity and a process that functions both as a unitary element and as well as having with it an ability of being nurtured,being nourished,being cherished,being guided or being killed.In this way it intuitively behaves and portrays its  human value with certain outward characteristics quite unique in Self.
One of these  Self nature and or characteristics is found in the quadrangle. That is to say that the heart desires,dictates,demands and drives.As it is being nourished so it demands gifts and such receiving activities including gifts,presents,donations and social sacrifice.As  the heart longs for what is happiness so it desires to get and seek for it as it dominates in the cycle of love and becomes dominant and possessive.So great that it hates rivalry and challenges from the sideshows and loathes distance.As it craves for a belonging and a longing for possession so it dictates who should provide for what it considers personal and necessary ,how it desires for the longing and provisions to be available and justifies itself on why and for what purpose. It finally seeks to identify with its complementary heart or partner as it identifies itself in a very unique way with a complementary partner and ends up cutting itself its own niche or a territory it will protect to the pain of death and so does it have the drive to demand and be demanded for.
Love behaves  like a soul with feelings,desires and drives while as a being in its element as a heart it demands direction,among other things.The heart and soul are therefore components of love that each contributes in a very unique way to Loves well-being.
Labour of Love
The heart and soul labour together to sustain love,cement its successes and cherishes its negative threshold.The heart and soul needs nourishment,needs care,needs protection and assurance of security,needs growth and responsibility and finally needs a re-birth. This is the sole purpose of Labour of and for love.
Labour of love is what is done for the sake of love.it is an investment in the direction of love that is expected to be self perpetuating and to be repaid handsomely in a term to come is it yields dividends of love.It requires self sacrifice and self denial as well as taking risk for the sake of affection.This is usually done by the initiator or sustainer of love.
To labour for love means  the repayment situation which is characterized by self denial and high affinity for pleasant reactions on the part of the recipient in the form of appreciation and acceptance and comes as a result of The Romantic Submission Moment  already discussed in another article.Both labouring for love and of love are the result of attaining climax of Romantic Socialization after successful completion of the three stages that leads to The Romantic Submission as the distance and anxiety are evidently minimized to zero tolerance as the partners have finally been drawn together as acquaintances and are no longer strangers.
Labouring for love is always one of the social aspects and perspective of Timology as a Social Change Process and is one of the important basic element of existence.The greatest contribution to human happiness has always been the ability to meet the desires of the heart hence the saying ''Follow your Heart''
How do partners labour for and of love?
This is usually done through soul-searching,romantic  exploration,self denial,enduring the pain of love,done by both involved partners as well as giving a chance for the expression of characteristics of love.  Some of the romantic encounters are both sweet and nourishing at the same time bitter and challenging that the pain of labouring for love is the climax of The Romantic Quigmire which explains the reaction of losers as they attempt to justify their loses at a point in time.
So what do you have to say?

The Discussion

Contribution by Elsie Njeri  Saturday 29/01/2011

Anyone who can romance is definitely a person who have enjoyed the benefit of being romanced or has a want to be romanced,an aspect of, you can only give what you have. Its serenading of each other, moving at the space of the one you are romancing,take the example

for a suckling mother caressing and speaking softly to her baby. She is speaking to a slow learner a language that gets their attention thus making learning interesting.its speaking to your customer in a way that makes them feel special and wanted thus making them to continue coming.its art to be learnt for its an important aspect of life.romancing is not just intimacy,it broader than that.

over to you vin

Thanks for your contribution Elsie.With reference to your point of view of romance and anyone who can romance expressed herein,may I focus on a real experience,especially a love affair.My understanding of Romance is that I consider it  something or a touch of love remarkable or worth describing as being romantic.Put in another way,and I agree with you,is that a romantic person is such a visionary person having ideas,feelings,desires,passion or otherwise,remote from experience and real life given to ordinary romance. Therefore,a person who can romanticize,is one who will use warm and kind feelings in a romantic way,or would make romance,or will make romantic style in expressing feelings.From this then without any prejudice,may I put your feelings under Romantic Perspective (Intimate love ) which is one of the three perspectives considered under The Labour of Love 

Your example of a suckling mother is an expression of Filial Perspective of love which is a delightful or lovable encounter between initial lovers that have graduated into husband and wife wth the product of their love as children

Romantic Perspective looks at intimate love as a warm and kind feelings expressed between two persons that were initially strangers and alien to their hearts,for the purpose and intent of sexual possesion or desires usually laboured through kissing,caressing,fondling,hugging or smooching.Its departure from the two other perspectives ( Filial Perspective-Family Love and Social Perspective-Social Love expressed as fanaticism or patriotism),is that there is a sexual consumation of love.

Well,I intend to take the Romatnic Perspective to build my article.

Over to you Elsie!

Sent: Sun, January 30, 2011 12:50:13 PM

at least we have finally a defined perpective........is romance not like a vehicle that helps you get there,anyway?in style?majestically?its defined by intention either just to conquer or acquire for genuine reason(true love) or selfish reason(lust) the high the value the well equipt is the conqueror.when the stakes are high we take no chances we prepare.and when it matters to us we take care of every step This takes me to the argument whats the difference between LOVE and ROMANCE?

 waiting

Thanks dear

First I welcome your question whats the difference between LOVE and ROMANCE?

To start with Love may I say that,this is a feeling or a delight or a desire that a person has.Love is more intimate and touches the heart and involves enjoyment by both parties involved.Love is that activity given for the pleasure of giving and not receiving back  and not for its stake.Love is laboured for and labourer enjoys doing what she or he is doing for the sake of the loved one and remains hard-put even to the outside pressures,challenges or influence hence the saying,love is blind or love knows no cultural barrier.Love means doing things for the sake of your sweetheart all in the name of love.So love is an affiliated feeling that surpasses intuition and reasoning. 

Romance on the other hand when I take it deeply, is the personification of love.it is like a cupid.It may refer to real experience of love,especially,a love affair considered to be remarkable or worthy of description.Romance is the product or outcome of a love affair.What is experienced as a result of loving experiences.

In art and literature and music,Romance may refer to a story or novel of adventure,or a love story,especially one in which the events are quite untrue or unlike real life,or a class of literature consisting of such stories.It is marked by feelings elicited to the audience rather than by intellect,preferring grandeur,passion,informal beauty,to order and proportion(opposite of classic and classical piece) From the work of romantic poets like Shelley or Keats,may I infer that a person with romantic ideas,is a visionary person who knows what he is looking for in a lover and plays the cupid to win a loved one.From these,may I infer that Romance is a form of real experience of ideas,feelings,passions and desires that are remote from ordinary experience or real life given to love.Romance is therefore visionary  intentions and activities while love is feelings To this extent it is right and I justify your feeling that Romance is like a vehicle which a lover uses to reach the heart of the loved one.

What do you say?

Romantic Optimism

 An article by Vincent Oduor Odhiambo

(Timology Consultant and Father of modern Timology)

Introduction

To love sometimes means love requires optimism yet being pessimistic is also an alternative yet I must admit that it is romantically healthy to make your days happier and longer,romantic life meaningful and challenging and days where  easy laughter follows you everywhere you go as couples and in everything you do and touch together and accomplish as a unit. Since you may be cracking little jokes together over trivials and meanings or cracking yourselves up over nothings and things at all when you are with your partner, you should realize it's a good fun  and great for those around you, too This is Romantic Optimism congruent to Good times for all!Watch out for this great article coming

 Romantic Optimism

Thinking and valuing oneself positively sometimes is a key contributor to satisfaction in life. Those who stay focused almost to a great magnitude find peace with the environment due to some kind of self understanding as they get the contentment and do not compare themselves with others. Those whose tendencies are to look at the important others often become cynical about life and love as they feign affection with the existence as a result of the sideshows and reflection on and with the important others. 

With reference to one of my Social Networks ‘‘Silence is Gold’’ whose question was and I paraphrase

‘‘life is a walk with many side shows, the question is, do you stay focused to the goal or to the side shows’’ 

I am attempting to initiate the discussion on the same under the title Romantic Optimism. Take Romantic optimism to mean life satisfaction and self affiliation to the ladder of success. This comes about due to being focussed on the set goal of success.

 Before you duel on being focussed or not first define the social set up where you are an active player. Define the life situation and the influence of time on the situation then appraise the entities and the components of the environment as defined by The Time-Environment Interaction Theory. Bring to the surface the understanding of being focussed, what the focus and attention is all about and what the important others are in the thoroughfare of life. My advice is you don't need to do things you are not capable of just because of others in the sideshow in order to please the rest of others at the expense of the important others in the side show but you have to remain focussed on the journey and task ahead. Reflecting on other opinion many rays shine a lot of truth on this. 

According to Seneca "It is not the man who has too little, but the man who craves more, that is poor.!" Craving for more here means your divided attention and turning to the sideshows since you are craving for more as a sign of lustfulness as one feels inadequate and insufficient.

After all According to one of my followers, you are the director of your own life, the writer of your own story and the star of your reality and destiny Remember there comes a time in life when ones inner life is quite dramatic right from the situational circumstances and realities, especially where speed and success are factors-- and other situations where one might want to sequester oneself away somewhere for a while to watch the event of life.

All these unfold to the realities of the situation and the destiny of life. At this moment one can learn a lot about oneself if one takes the time and remain focussed on the goal. Here the sideshows will only be precursors to conflict and frustrations and attention divertors.So it is important to be focussed to the goal and follow your heart. PAT PAT’s reflection is that “Happiness is not something you find, it’s something you create…”  REMEMBER ‘‘The golden rule to happiness in life and satisfaction in Romance is to Follow your heart and do what your heart desires” Click on the link below for the pdf document https://docs.google.com/viewer?a=v&pid=explorer&chrome=true&srcid=0B42P3eacNDi1OTY5ZWM1MmEtNGNmNi00YTNiLWI4OGItMjhhNmFjODNiNTg2&hl=en_GB

What is Romanticism?

Tell me the role of Romanticism in Modern world and I will tell you about Knowledge expansion
 Romanticism is the valuing of feelings and intuition over reason.It began  in Germany in the late 1700s, were it heavily influenced the arts until the nineteenth century.It began in part as a reaction against rationalism, which tried to reason away the problems in society.

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The Romantic Escapism

The Romantic Escapism is an article that attempts to initiate a discussion and elicit comments on this queer behaviour displayed by a loser whenever a romantic encounter goes below the threshold of expectation.This is what is captured in the article The Romantic Escapism which is a situation where a loser in a romantic encounter deliberately engages in social activities that negates the principles of romantic realities.It is a situation where one  willingly refuses to acknowledge and accept the lose of the encounter as presented by time and behaves contrary to to the expectation.

Some of the activities the escapist is involved in include:Aggressive behaviour,Use of threats,justification,runaway fidelity and prolonged bachelorhood or spinsterhood.Read more on this by reading the pdf document The Romantic Escapism

From an article by Chuck Colson a  Google Alert on  Romantic Escapism where he reacted to my sentimental contribution,he presented the article below:

THE ROMANCE OF DOMESTICITY

Taking Joy in the Ordinary

By: Chuck Colson|Published: February 7, 2011 12:00 AM

Topics: Christian Living, Inspiration

Celebrities: We hear all the time about their money, lovers, homes, and jet-setting lifestyles. Yet they are among the unhappiest people on earth. Nothing seems to satisfy them for long.

An article in Touchstone magazine hints at why this is so: They have lost any sense of wonder in the ordinary.

In a piece called “The Romance of Domesticity,” philosopher Nathan Schlueter writes that to be human is to suffer the ravages of time, of change, of suffering, and ultimately, death. How we respond to these experiences determines how happy we will be.

Christianity teaches us to see reality as it is. But many moderns live under the influence of what Schlueter calls “a dangerous heresy that twists both the truth and a good many lives.” He says the heresy is Romanticism, by which he means “the impulse to escape, through passionate idealization and fancy, from the real world… of suffering and change,” and biological limits.

Schlueter points to the French novel Madame Bovary, in which author Gustave Flaubert offers “the essential pattern” of this type of Romanticism. First, Schlueter writes, Flaubert “locates Romanticism in a disordered imagination.” Flaubert understood the “connection between the imagination and desire, and the…power of art to shape the imagination.”  Reading the wrong kind of novels, Flaubert observes, shaped Emma Bovary’s view of happiness, particularly in marriage.

A second aspect of the Romantic imagination is itinerancy. Emma Bovary, views her small-town life as deeply dull; she presses her husband to move elsewhere—Paris, for instance, where she is sure she will find happiness.

Consumerism is a third element of Romanticism, pandering, as it does, to the wish to constantly re-invent oneself. In Madame Bovary, consumerism takes the form of the merchant Lleureaux, who Schlueter writes, “profit[s] handsomely at every step of [Emma’s] demise.” But the consumerist promise—which today includes not merely clothing and jewelry, but Botox and tummy tucks—is futile: These things can’t re-make us; they can merely change us superficially.

A fourth feature of Romantic escapism is adultery and promiscuity. When Emma takes a lover, she believes that she will finally find true happiness. But in time, the affair becomes as stale as her marriage.

Romanticism is ultimately about existential escapism—“a revolt against… one’s limits as an embodied soul and creature,” Schlueter writes. And the end is ultimately unhappiness.

As humans made in God’s image, we will always long for something better than this life: That of course is eternity with Him in Heaven. But we can find a measure of real satisfaction here on earth in the gifts and life that God has given us.

Schlueter suggests that we need to develop an imagination that “captures and reveals the extraordinary quality of ordinary life.”  We must learn the romance of domesticity: taking pleasure in the smell of baking bread, the sight of a sleeping baby, the sound of a fire crackling in the hearth, conversation with a friend.

So for the sake of our marriages, our relationships, and our spiritual lives, let’s ignore the news about celebrities. Let’s not imagine that somehow some thing will give us happiness.

Instead, with grateful hearts, let’s cultivate a sense of wonder and joy in the ordinary things of life.

This is a biblical and spiritual point of view of Romantic escapism what would otherwise be Spiritual Escapism.What is your input?