If Love is So Sweet, Why Does it Hurt So Much?

Are We genuine in What We Do?

There has always been this question:If Love is So Sweet,Why Does it Hurt So Much? Many attempts to provide an answer to thr question and sample out a few answers to the the question

According to Jackline Kevin 

"Everyone says that LOVE hurts.But that's not true.Loneliness hurts,rejection hurts,losing someone you love hurts.Everyone confuses these with love.But in reality love is the only thing in this world that covers up all the pain and makes us feel wonderful again!" 

 While I share the same sentiment with Jacky I must state that she lists to be hurting are the stains of bitterness that the sweetness of love wipes out.When this is done you feel so sweet ,so rejuvenated  that you feel a sense of re-birth.It has its own tribulation and fantasies. 

The Sweetness Of Love

The sweetness of Love

The Sweetness of Love often surpasses and subdues the Waves of Hatred as you succumb and submits to the feelings of love and follow the desires of your heart.This often is a powerful phenomenon whose resultant effect wipes out the stains of bitterness

When you come face to face with the realities of the situation of love on the ground,often there is less doubt that you will always have the Push and Pull effect of love to open its doors and this culminates to varieties of attitudes ranging from self sacrifice,self denial,risk-taking to letting go,total surrender and the will-crossing to the social front

Walking In The Shadow Of Love

Look at this:You bump into a relationship,you craft and built what you believe should be perfect love , safeguard it by protecting it and giving it your best commitment,you strive to following the desires of your heart.you endeavour to giving it the sacrifice of the time and the donation  of space,giving it your all,only to realize at the breaking moment and the submission moment that you were walking in somebody's shadow of love.It has happened to me several times whenever you land a relationship and you show it the commitment and to realize  that you was watching or participating in a Romantic Movie. When you are about to enjoy bits and bites of love and subscribe to the sweetness of the fountain of love,You realize that it is too good to be real

Sometime a simple and silly human error of not calling as frequently as used to be,or calling very frequently or commenting on what irritates the recipient,sending an a text message which literally apppears ambiguous to the recipient or even trying to find a lot of what the lover believes is a lot of unnecessary detailed information. ......

Sometimes I do not understand the requirements of love.When you appear so much indifferent the needs and material needs of your new-found love,you are dubbed mean.When you support freely and readily,you are quickly taken advantage of and tall orders placed on your path.here if you fail to honour then you become a valueless friend to and dropped like a hot potato.It is claimed you are vulnerable.When you do not come out easily from your cocoon of love then you are told someone is tired of phone love "Nimechoka na mapenzi ya simu"The digital romance is akin to the material gain and the value accrued so much that the patties involved must be ready and be prepared save a fortune in order to satisfy and sustain it as they subscribe to the ideals of this love.I stand to be corrected but th true picture is that one lover usually makes unnecessary demands in the belief that life is so sweet that it must be lived to the fullest advantage and do not even care dying young.They retort:

"I better live comfortably like a King only for ten years on Earth rather than living a hundred years like a slave"

The Pain of Love

When All Your Friends Disappears

Love is a concortion to the disturbed heart and a remorse for those in a romantic quagmire.Admittedly love is so sweet yet love is also more painful and hurting when you have really invested in and done a lot to build the relationship,when you do look straight and stay forecast at what you have got while a little misunderstanding or a silly mistake has the power or eroding and bringing down the Labours of Love.On the Quest Of Love there is the realization that love requires a lot of sacrifice and self-denial sometimes you give it your all-your very best depending on The Choice Of Love.You are building on the understanding that love requires a commitment and a desire to let go other things that could pose a challenge to the status quo.Your attitude to this love is that love requires risk-taking free will attitude and when all these have been done and the emptiness solicited by the love triangle is what one gets,then the tribulation of love and romantic quagmire sets in. You realize its hollowness-Its pain.You feel like you were chasing the wind and the Whispers of Hatred become louder than the Echoes of love Read The Echoes of Hatred and see what I mean

When there has been The Romantic Submission Moment with the crossing of a social front where one considers oneself a winner and a participant in the Game of Romance only to realize the solitude of being dumped and given the polite request of giving a break then the bitterness of what would otherwise be a presumptive naked truth then the better pills of love begin to be digested in the heart.Often one heart bleeds in the pain of loving the unlovable at the moment and duration of place.

In a Love Triangle,the pain of loving somebody who loves somebody else is so great and yet so sharp and double-edged that it cuts and  chops into pieces both the heart and the soul of the affected.The Mind As An Object of Love suffers a great deal This is so great when you realize that there are or come face to face with the skeletons in the closet.One is left with a bleeding heart and a limping physique that one feels cheated and abandoned.You feel cheated and used like an old dry bone which has been licked and licked and shined on and rained on until no dog is interested in.No doubt you feel helpless like a slave being auctioned.You feel like a pauper and a servant in the reigning Royal Kingdom of Love with what you thought was the King or Queen of your heart having signed in somebody else' heart.You resign to the hands of the unknown fate and wait for the dark moment hoping that the ray of beginning afresh will dawn to give you a new lease of life to find a new solace solace.

I had one posted that

There comes a time when one is torn between the desire to achieve love and the disillusionment that there are certain limits to this and the rejection that would later accompany this-Somebody digitally referred to this as sexual harassment.The greatest mess is when one uses unrestrained generosity to break through the barriers in the name of support, and once trust sets in unrealistic demands sets in and when there is a pillar of doubt or failure to meet the demand then you are dropped like a hot potato and deserted for those whose love relationship have accrued benefits.It is always good to wait until things relax.This way you can always provide others with great understanding and patience.Otherwise it is always the innocent who are mistaken.

Perhaps one would ask what could be these feelings of pain.Realistically,the feeling of lose,the feeling of inadequacy,the feeling of uselessness and the feeling of abandonment are the signs and symptoms of the Pain of Love.
Somehow the realities of the choice of Love sets in as your eyes open up after the the episode