"Love sometimes proves to have many faces and at times is so sweet
that sometimes it calls for a sacrifice and an escape to the outer
private..."
THE SOJOURN
OF LOVE
An article by
Vincent Oduor
Odhiambo (Bed, Med Nairobi)
Father of
Modern Timolog
While romancing
is admittedly having many tidbits, cycles, ebbs and tides, managements of these
may be quite challenging and of course a subject of discussion or debate
whichever way is your standpoint. One thing which should be quite certain is
that these tidbits, cycles, ebbs and tides associated with love breeds and
nurtures so many Faces Of Love.Out of these many faces of love,
I am building
an argument on the face projected by hollowness and emptiness and please my
dear reader join me in the discussion if you please. This is so in order
to present a treatise with sharing with the
humanity.
I wish to
comment on a situation where a lover is swayed by the ebbs and tides and is so
low so disgusted and down that he or she feels so much less and down in
spirit that he finds love and life both hollow and meaningless. One is
therefore bogged down with a feeling of betrayal, and a feeling of uselessness,
a feeling of desertion, a feeling of absconding and a feeling of
meaninglessness.
Here one is at a loss and gets such a feeling that a bird whose nest, nestle
and brood has been destroyed by a fowler gone and never to be seen again would
have-
The feeling that love has escaped in the air. The
feeling of emptiness at times is so great and so hollow that it makes the
victim behaves and wears the face of dejection as loving in its latest facial
appearance is like chasing the wind.
Out of many perspectives that you may look at it, I wish to argue for the cycle
of love associated with a feeling of betrayal This might not be a betrayal per
see but the other face projected when love is forced to swing into the face of
freedom, the face of free choice that it escapes the captivating and territorial
commands of the other partner.
To a socially
outgoing partner with a lone ranger, then this is where the mistake begins to
be seen and regrets ensue. There is this face of love when you feel
somewhat out of touch with your romantic element socially and when all the
elements of existence and other things tend to appear to betray your course of
existence you become so low in spirit that you feel like escaping romantically
to the sea of bliss. This is Romantic Quagmire and a moment of
romantic soul searching-- but it's not just your own energy wreaking havoc it is a
multiplicity of factors taking control.
While being alone might be the best portion, for those still with some
hopes of rekindling hopes in life, I wish to reiterate that at this moment you
need somebody to synchronize and share out with, to give the emerging negatives
their meanings in life. To remind you of and nurture your latent potential
strength that exists along the negatives. To give life and love a new lease of
life and meanings in existence. To celebrate your successes to fill your
emptiness while cherishing your failures and shortcomings. To make you forget
your perils and evils so as to synchronize the adversity of love in order to
diversify its feelings
It advisable never to create room for loneliness in this situation. One
can never confide to himself. It takes two to get out for synchronization, just
as it takes two to get back into the same groove and game. It takes two to
tango and it takes two to resolve-This has the soothing effect and the calming
moment of the conflicting situation.
When you miss the chance of the great re-union with your supposedly
better human being you have always imagined to be your half, then seek the
company and redress of either a friend, a relative or a family member or
somebody you are so close to that will not throw you into another romantic
bliss. Remember you do not need another dose of Romantic Bliss. Get a perfect
freedom for a soothing moment. The perfectness of this pair is what I call romantic break-evening.
This might sound so philosophical, yet so necessary that it cannot be ignored.
When you are low in spirit, artistically and socially, get a refreshing
environment, a soothing and a quieter environment, a healing corner and get a
fresh breath of love. Learn from every and any other item that nature could
mercifully presents to you in that environment.
Romanticize every moment and situation you find yourself into and make
meaning out of your sojourn. Get the best out of your sojourn. The video shots
of the funniest moment and the allure of music in the background might be
meaningless but will count. You will miss the sight and aroma of the foods
served around. The snapshots of the adjoining culture, the nature and its
beauty, the constructions and arrangement in the compound and even the décor
will count one day when it will shade a lot of meaning in your love life. Those
little souvenir article will be refreshing and quite rewarding to you after the
sojourn later thereafter.
Be a willing learner and learn out of every situation. Do not fret
and be negative of your romantic sojourn. At least there is something little to
learn about it if you think positive So do not forget to pick an item however
small or useless it might appear.
It might be your talisman one day. Remember,
memories will be made of those little silly things that lovers do or should do
have done or missed to do.
This is the essence of Romantic Escape. The right thing for one to do, when
this happens, is to live and let live, get self confidence, self reflection
self worth, and self assurance and gather the necessary courage to face the
inevitable realities that has come with the situation.
Here, you need to if you find this necessary and if you can afford, to
escape to a quieter, more serene and private suburban environment where natural
element-The soothing cool mountain air or sea-breeze, the welcoming glitter of
white sand, the tantalizing whistling birds the serene beautiful landscape
around with the diverse culture of the adjoining inhabitants as well as the
healing twinkles of the stars -will administer their anaesthesia.
The overall result is to make one relax and relieve the tension
emanating from the situational grief. A swim in the rough salty beaches or
smooth fresh swimming pool should do the trick. Lessons from Martin Luther King
reveal that the ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of
comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenges and
controversies
So when I reflect on this, I would say that the ultimate strength of love s not
the challenges of love one encounters in moments of Romantic Submission but how
one handles the challenges and conflicting situations.
This is the time for true lovers to stand up and renew the degenerating
love
escapade.
Love is an
entity that exists and must continue in the heart of the holder as long as
existence is guaranteed and that is why it fits so well in timology. Love must
be borne, love needs care and nurturing, love needs attention and nourishment.
Love has many faces and facets to be recognized, nourished, cherished and
celebtrated.This is where the sojourn of love comes in. When everything is said and done, take the great lesson from David
Schuler that
TOUGH TIMES NEVER LAST BUT TOUGH PEOPLE DO.
©K’Odongoh
Educational Publishers 2011
E-mail:timologycocepts@gmail.com
