The Sojourn Of Love

"Love sometimes proves to have many faces and at times is so sweet that sometimes it calls for a sacrifice and an escape to the outer private..."

THE SOJOURN OF LOVE

An article by

Vincent Oduor Odhiambo (Bed, Med Nairobi)

Father of Modern Timolog

While romancing is admittedly having many tidbits, cycles, ebbs and tides, managements of these may be quite challenging and of course a subject of discussion or debate whichever way is your standpoint. One thing which should be quite certain is that these tidbits, cycles, ebbs and tides associated with love breeds and nurtures so many Faces Of Love.Out of these many faces of love,

I am building an argument on the face projected by hollowness and emptiness and please my dear reader  join me in the discussion if you please. This is so in order to present a treatise with sharing with the humanity.                                                                        

I wish to comment on a situation where a lover is swayed by the ebbs and tides and is so low  so disgusted and down that he or she feels so much less and down in spirit that he finds love and life both  hollow and meaningless. One is therefore bogged down with a feeling of betrayal, and a feeling of uselessness, a feeling of desertion, a feeling of absconding and a feeling of meaninglessness.                                                                                                                                    Here one is at a loss and gets such a feeling that a bird whose nest, nestle and brood has been destroyed by a fowler gone and never to be seen again would have-

The feeling that love has escaped in the air. The feeling of emptiness at times is so great and so hollow that it makes the victim behaves and wears the face of dejection as loving in its latest facial appearance is like chasing the wind.                                                                                                                                        Out of many perspectives that you may look at it, I wish to argue for the cycle of love associated with a feeling of betrayal This might not be a betrayal per see but the other face projected when love is forced to swing into the face of freedom, the face of free choice that it escapes the captivating and territorial commands of the other partner. 

To a socially outgoing partner with a lone ranger, then this is where the mistake begins to be seen and regrets ensue. There is this face of love when you feel somewhat out of touch with your romantic element socially and when all the elements of existence and other things tend to appear to betray your course of existence you become so low in spirit that you feel like escaping romantically to the sea of bliss. This is Romantic Quagmire and a moment of romantic soul searching-- but it's not just your own energy wreaking havoc it is a multiplicity of factors taking control.

While being alone might be the best portion, for those still with some hopes of rekindling hopes in life, I wish to reiterate that at this moment you need somebody to synchronize and share out with, to give the emerging negatives their meanings in life. To remind you of and nurture your latent potential strength that exists along the negatives. To give life and love a new lease of life and meanings in existence. To celebrate your successes to fill your emptiness while cherishing your failures and shortcomings. To make you forget your perils and evils so as to synchronize the adversity of love in order to diversify its feelings

It advisable never to create room for loneliness in this situation. One can never confide to himself. It takes two to get out for synchronization, just as it takes two to get back into the same groove and game. It takes two to tango and it takes two to resolve-This has the soothing effect and the calming moment of the conflicting situation.

When you miss the chance of the great re-union with your supposedly better human being you have always imagined to be your half, then seek the company and redress of either a friend, a relative or a family member or somebody you are so close to that will not throw you into another romantic bliss. Remember you do not need another dose of Romantic Bliss. Get a perfect freedom for a soothing moment. The perfectness of this pair is what I call romantic break-evening.                                                                                                                                              This might sound so philosophical, yet so necessary that it cannot be ignored. When you are low in spirit, artistically and socially, get a refreshing environment, a soothing and a quieter environment, a healing corner and get a fresh breath of love. Learn from every and any other item that nature could mercifully presents to you in that environment.

Romanticize every moment and situation you find yourself into and make meaning out of your sojourn. Get the best out of your sojourn. The video shots of the funniest moment and the allure of music in the background might be meaningless but will count. You will miss the sight and aroma of the foods served around. The snapshots of the adjoining culture, the nature and its beauty, the constructions and arrangement in the compound and even the décor will count one day when it will shade a lot of meaning in your love life. Those little souvenir article will be refreshing and quite rewarding to you after the sojourn later thereafter.

 Be a willing learner and learn out of every situation. Do not fret and be negative of your romantic sojourn. At least there is something little to learn about it if you think positive So do not forget to pick an item however small or useless it might appear.

It might be your talisman one day. Remember, memories will be made of those little silly things that lovers do or should do have done or missed to do.                                                                                                                      This is the essence of Romantic Escape. The right thing for one to do, when this happens, is to live and let live, get self confidence, self reflection self worth, and self assurance and gather the necessary courage to face the inevitable realities that has come with the situation.

Here, you need to if you find this necessary and if you can afford, to escape to a quieter, more serene and private suburban environment where natural element-The soothing cool mountain air or sea-breeze, the welcoming glitter of white sand, the tantalizing whistling birds the serene beautiful landscape around with the diverse culture of the adjoining inhabitants as well as the healing twinkles of the stars -will administer their anaesthesia.

The overall result is to make one relax and relieve the tension emanating from the situational grief. A swim in the rough salty beaches or smooth fresh swimming pool should do the trick. Lessons from Martin Luther King reveal that the ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenges and controversies

So when I reflect on this, I would say that the ultimate strength of love s not the challenges of love one encounters in moments of Romantic Submission but how one handles the challenges and conflicting situations.

This is the time for true lovers to stand up and renew the degenerating love escapade.                                                                                                               Love is an entity that exists and must continue in the heart of the holder as long as existence is guaranteed and that is why it fits so well in timology. Love must be borne, love needs care and nurturing, love needs attention and nourishment. Love has many faces and facets to be recognized, nourished, cherished and celebtrated.This is where the sojourn of love comes in. When everything is said and done, take the great lesson from David Schuler that 

TOUGH TIMES NEVER LAST BUT TOUGH PEOPLE DO.

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