Timology as a Labour of Love

Timology as a Labour of Love.
Introduction
 I start this discussion by posing the question, what is love?  The discussion starts with attempted definition of love, highlighting the characteristics of love and the importance of the love element in human endeavour and finally looks at the perspectives of love.                             
In an attempt to define  love the Oxford Advanced Learners dictionary defines love as a warm, kind feeling; fondness or affectionate and tender devotion. In a very light touch without direct indications these feelings would be in form of   children (Filial),Love of adventure or passion or love of one’s country-patriotism or fanaticism (Social) and sexual desires between two affectionately intimate people of the opposite sex (Romance)                                                             
The notable characteristics of love is that Love must be fallen into( come to feel love:-Kissing,Caressing,Fondling,hugging,Smooching,Chatting,loveplay,writing loving messages and loveletters,lovematching,telling love stories, singing love songs and lovesickness, there must be feelings for and towards the loved one),Love has its Romantic activities                               
While a lot of meaning and emphasis has been and is still being given to the importance of the element of love,  it should be understood that the element of love has been an age-old prescription to loneliness among different cultures in different geographical that has persisted over time is still being experienced and will still.
There are characteristically more Perspectives of love depending on the functional activities that prevail in the destiny of existence and the thoroughfare of life but for the sake of this discussion there are three perspectives. These are: the Filial Perspectives or family love; the Social Perspective otherwise known as Social Love and the Romantic Perspective or intimate.
The Filial Perspective is a special bond and attachment emanating from the family membership-a sense and attraction of belonging to a common unit. This is the family love and craving for family positional.
The Social Perspective is the Social love and refers to a superficial relationship that exists between prominent personalities in social classes and their ardent followers. It is characteristic of fanaticism and is often a reminiscent of The Social Submission Moment                      
The Romantic Perspective is the dimension that focuses on the love and intimate relationship between two parties that were otherwise strangers to each other and distance apart at heart that have been drawn together and are therefore intimate to each other  I therefore take the perspective of Romantic Love or the Intimate Love.Love, in its general aspect whichever the perspective, is usually a component of both the heart and the soul representing physical and spiritual aspects of Romance.As units representative of a BEING, the heart and , or soul, is usually an entity and a process that functions both as a unitary element and as well as having with it an ability of being nurtured,being nourished,being cherished,being guided or being killed.In this way it intuitively behaves and portrays its  human value with certain outward characteristics quite unique in Self.
One of these  Self nature and or characteristics is found in the quadrangle. That is to say that the heart desires,dictates,demands and drives.As it is being nourished so it demands gifts and such receiving activities including gifts,presents,donations and social sacrifice.As  the heart longs for what is happiness so it desires to get and seek for it as it dominates in the cycle of love and becomes dominant and possessive.So great that it hates rivalry and challenges from the sideshows and loathes distance.As it craves for a belonging and a longing for possession so it dictates who should provide for what it considers personal and necessary ,how it desires for the longing and provisions to be available and justifies itself on why and for what purpose. It finally seeks to identify with its complementary heart or partner as it identifies itself in a very unique way with a complementary partner and ends up cutting itself its own niche or a territory it will protect to the pain of death and so does it have the drive to demand and be demanded for.
Love behaves  like a soul with feelings,desires and drives while as a being in its element as a heart it demands direction,among other things.The heart and soul are therefore components of love that each contributes in a very unique way to Loves well-being.
Labour of Love
The heart and soul labour together to sustain love,cement its successes and cherishes its negative threshold.The heart and soul needs nourishment,needs care,needs protection and assurance of security,needs growth and responsibility and finally needs a re-birth. This is the sole purpose of Labour of and for love.
Labour of love is what is done for the sake of love.it is an investment in the direction of love that is expected to be self perpetuating and to be repaid handsomely in a term to come is it yields dividends of love.It requires self sacrifice and self denial as well as taking risk for the sake of affection.This is usually done by the initiator or sustainer of love.
To labour for love means  the repayment situation which is characterized by self denial and high affinity for pleasant reactions on the part of the recipient in the form of appreciation and acceptance and comes as a result of The Romantic Submission Moment  already discussed in another article.Both labouring for love and of love are the result of attaining climax of Romantic Socialization after successful completion of the three stages that leads to The Romantic Submission as the distance and anxiety are evidently minimized to zero tolerance as the partners have finally been drawn together as acquaintances and are no longer strangers.
Labouring for love is always one of the social aspects and perspective of Timology as a Social Change Process and is one of the important basic element of existence.The greatest contribution to human happiness has always been the ability to meet the desires of the heart hence the saying ''Follow your Heart''
How do partners labour for and of love?
This is usually done through soul-searching,romantic  exploration,self denial,enduring the pain of love,done by both involved partners as well as giving a chance for the expression of characteristics of love.  Some of the romantic encounters are both sweet and nourishing at the same time bitter and challenging that the pain of labouring for love is the climax of The Romantic Quigmire which explains the reaction of losers as they attempt to justify their loses at a point in time.
So what do you have to say?

The Discussion

Contribution by Elsie Njeri  Saturday 29/01/2011

Anyone who can romance is definitely a person who have enjoyed the benefit of being romanced or has a want to be romanced,an aspect of, you can only give what you have. Its serenading of each other, moving at the space of the one you are romancing,take the example

for a suckling mother caressing and speaking softly to her baby. She is speaking to a slow learner a language that gets their attention thus making learning interesting.its speaking to your customer in a way that makes them feel special and wanted thus making them to continue coming.its art to be learnt for its an important aspect of life.romancing is not just intimacy,it broader than that.

over to you vin

Thanks for your contribution Elsie.With reference to your point of view of romance and anyone who can romance expressed herein,may I focus on a real experience,especially a love affair.My understanding of Romance is that I consider it  something or a touch of love remarkable or worth describing as being romantic.Put in another way,and I agree with you,is that a romantic person is such a visionary person having ideas,feelings,desires,passion or otherwise,remote from experience and real life given to ordinary romance. Therefore,a person who can romanticize,is one who will use warm and kind feelings in a romantic way,or would make romance,or will make romantic style in expressing feelings.From this then without any prejudice,may I put your feelings under Romantic Perspective (Intimate love ) which is one of the three perspectives considered under The Labour of Love 

Your example of a suckling mother is an expression of Filial Perspective of love which is a delightful or lovable encounter between initial lovers that have graduated into husband and wife wth the product of their love as children

Romantic Perspective looks at intimate love as a warm and kind feelings expressed between two persons that were initially strangers and alien to their hearts,for the purpose and intent of sexual possesion or desires usually laboured through kissing,caressing,fondling,hugging or smooching.Its departure from the two other perspectives ( Filial Perspective-Family Love and Social Perspective-Social Love expressed as fanaticism or patriotism),is that there is a sexual consumation of love.

Well,I intend to take the Romatnic Perspective to build my article.

Over to you Elsie!

Sent: Sun, January 30, 2011 12:50:13 PM

at least we have finally a defined perpective........is romance not like a vehicle that helps you get there,anyway?in style?majestically?its defined by intention either just to conquer or acquire for genuine reason(true love) or selfish reason(lust) the high the value the well equipt is the conqueror.when the stakes are high we take no chances we prepare.and when it matters to us we take care of every step This takes me to the argument whats the difference between LOVE and ROMANCE?

 waiting

Thanks dear

First I welcome your question whats the difference between LOVE and ROMANCE?

To start with Love may I say that,this is a feeling or a delight or a desire that a person has.Love is more intimate and touches the heart and involves enjoyment by both parties involved.Love is that activity given for the pleasure of giving and not receiving back  and not for its stake.Love is laboured for and labourer enjoys doing what she or he is doing for the sake of the loved one and remains hard-put even to the outside pressures,challenges or influence hence the saying,love is blind or love knows no cultural barrier.Love means doing things for the sake of your sweetheart all in the name of love.So love is an affiliated feeling that surpasses intuition and reasoning. 

Romance on the other hand when I take it deeply, is the personification of love.it is like a cupid.It may refer to real experience of love,especially,a love affair considered to be remarkable or worthy of description.Romance is the product or outcome of a love affair.What is experienced as a result of loving experiences.

In art and literature and music,Romance may refer to a story or novel of adventure,or a love story,especially one in which the events are quite untrue or unlike real life,or a class of literature consisting of such stories.It is marked by feelings elicited to the audience rather than by intellect,preferring grandeur,passion,informal beauty,to order and proportion(opposite of classic and classical piece) From the work of romantic poets like Shelley or Keats,may I infer that a person with romantic ideas,is a visionary person who knows what he is looking for in a lover and plays the cupid to win a loved one.From these,may I infer that Romance is a form of real experience of ideas,feelings,passions and desires that are remote from ordinary experience or real life given to love.Romance is therefore visionary  intentions and activities while love is feelings To this extent it is right and I justify your feeling that Romance is like a vehicle which a lover uses to reach the heart of the loved one.

What do you say?